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Fear of Public Speaking? Now Actually Beat it in 3 Easy Steps
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Fear of public speaking? Who? Me?
Yes…YOU!
Picture this:
You’re at the top of your game and you have to present a proposal to a group of decision-makers. Or you have to speak to the media about your journey as a successful female leader. Or you have to deliver a vote of thanks to the guest speaker at your Small Business Association Convention.
At the very thought of any of these – Your heart beats fast. You start to sweat. Your vocal chords start tightening and your thoughts are all over the place.
And you haven’t even started to prepare your speech!
All you want to do is run and hide!
What you don’t know, you are suffering from glossophobia – the fear of public speaking. In the worse way.
This used to happen to me years ago and even now as a trained, professional and experienced Public Speaker who have help hundreds overcome their fear of public speaking, I am still embarrassed when I remember those times!
Perhaps you’re wondering…
If I’m a CEO, if I own a business, why can’t I just pay somebody to do this for me…you know, outsource this duty…along with the fear…
Of course you can outsource the delivery or the organisation of your speech.
But you cannot outsource your fear of public speaking. As a matter of fact, you shouldn’t even want to. Your best bet is to work to overcome it instead. And here’s why:
Benefits of fearless public speaking
When you have great communication skills, because you have mastered your fear of public speaking, here are some of what you can do:
- Control the discussions and the debate around you and your small business. When you control these, you also control the outcomes.This means, in the eyes of your employees, customers, stakeholders and the public, you are a winner. And this shows up on your bottom line!
- Easily connect your business with stakeholders, customers and the public, building goodwill for the business.
- Differentiate yourself and your services in a crowded market or niche.
- Present critical information easily and effectively. This improves how you implement strategies and respond to crises.
- Leverage public speaking skills to negotiate anything.
- Inspire your staff by sharing your vision in a way that they can understand and buy into.
Your present relationship with public speaking
Before we go any further, let me define public speaking for you.
Here is a simple definition of public speaking:
It is the skill of sharing your thoughts, ideas and convictions, in an orderly manner on a particular topic, to an audience, so as to convince them about or educate them on that topic.
Isn’t that what you do all the time as you go about your daily life?
So what happens, when you stand behind a microphone in front of an audience, that you want to blame on poor old public speaking?
Here’s what happens.
First of all, making a speech or giving a presentation usually requires you to stand apart from the comfort and the safety of a group.
Then you might have to share something about yourself or do something like introduce a speaker.
And if you have to speak without prior notice, you wish for a hole just a little bigger than your body dimensions (for comfort and speed) to swallow you.
You see, this single act of having to speak “in an orderly fashion to an audience” has tremendous potential for an instant dive in self-confidence and a meteoric rise in thoughts of all your insecurities.
And in that moment, you and about 75% of the world’s adult population experience what you label as “fear of public speaking!”
Your “fear of public speaking” myth
Sorry to disappoint you but as far as I’m concerned, there really is no such thing as “fear of public speaking.”
Stay with me because you really need to understand that it is NOT fear of public speaking that’s the problem.
The real problem is that when you stand up to speak, you feel as though everyone can see your inner fears and deep insecurities.
So now you’re afraid of:
- your speech being judged and or criticised
- being exposed as a fraud
- someone finding out you’re wearing borrowed shoes
- not being able to answer questions after your speech
- and maybe even worse
This is another form of social anxiety that challenges your confidence and even your self-esteem. And this is why you think you are afraid of public speaking.
But once you get past this, you can begin to address your public speaking fears at a bigger level. You can expose them for what they are, and build your confidence even before you speak.
It’s really part of your wider self development And that’s why I want to help you overcome your “fear of public speaking.”
3 Easy steps to overcoming “fear of public speaking”
Here is a 3-Step process that I use in coaching and training with my clients and I’m sharing it with you.
It helps them to kick their “fear of public speaking” and comfortably become ready and raring to begin speaking, even before we get to the actual nuts and bolts of public speaking.
Now I want it to do the same for you…so here goes…
Step # 1 – Expose and understand your REAL fears
As a human being, you walk around with many fears which you don’t even think about. That’s because you have developed ways to cope with them, which hide them from the public. And from yourself.
But delivering a speech or presentation makes you feel naked and alone and these fears rush to the surface. As I mentioned before, this is what you label “fear of public speaking”.
After years of helping people become better speakers, here is a partial list of some of your personal fears. You fear:
- Success
- Failure
- Being judged
- Rejection
- Embarrassment
- Expressing your true feelings
- People’s negative opinion
- Criticism
- You don’t belong in or at the event
- People finding out your socks have a hole
- And the list goes on
What I want you to do is to identify your own fears and examine the extent to which these fears are impacting your desire or requirement to speak in public.
Here’s how:
Stop reading right now. Get out a pen and some paper – no laptop or cellphone. Go deep inside yourself and locate and write a list of your personal fears.
For each fear, ask yourself “Why do I feel this way about X?” What you’re quietly doing is confronting those fears.
Be as honest as you can because you don’t have to share them with anybody.
Step # 2 –Identify and remove your limiting beliefs and your fears together
Limiting beliefs are those “yes buts” around your fears which compete with the positive beliefs that you would like to have.
For example, you hear a really great speech and you say to yourself: Hey, I bet I could be just as good as that!
Immediately a small voice inside says, “yes but... do you know how long she’s been doing that?’ “yes but...do you really thing you could earn a living by speaking? Don’t make me laugh!”
So what can you do?
Get a blank sheet of paper and draw a line down the centre. On the left-hand side, list the positive feelings you’d like to have, or do have, of yourself as a public speaker. E. g: “I have a great voice!” or “I can make a presentation that can win the contract for the company!”
On the right-hand side, list all the limiting beliefs that you now hold which prevent you from making those statements true.
Then try to make the connection between your fears, your positive statements and your limiting beliefs.
Now try to remove the limiting beliefs and the fears.
What you’re going to do, is find a process that works for you.
It might be meditation or affirmations or good old-fashioned Prayer.
You can find inspiration in the lives of famous people who have overcome low self-esteem.
And if you feel you need professional help, don’t be afraid to seek it.
I can’t stress how important it is to try to remove any limiting beliefs from your thoughts and fears from your life.
It’s the fastest way you will soar to new heights in every area of your life!
Step # 3 – Replace the limiting beliefs and fears with positive actions
In this step, you begin to replace your limiting beliefs with some type of deliberate, positive actions.
Again, you may try affirmations. For example: Audiences appreciate me because I care about them. Or, I have valuable information I want to share and people want to hear me.
This replaces your negative self-talk with powerful empowering beliefs that eventually sink into your subconscious mind. This in turn will turnaround you negative thinking about yourself.
But don’t stop there.
As significant part of this process, challenge yourself to grow by giving short talks on subjects you know well to “safe” audiences. This will help you to gauge how your confidence is growing and reduce any thoughts of fear of public speaking.
And hey…why not pause and get some more help improving your speaking skills?
Your next “fear of public speaking” step…
So there you have them…3 easy steps to help you overcome your fear of public speaking.
Practice these three steps over and over, until you have mastered them and you will soon have people paying big bucks to hear you speak.
Now…the public speaking steps in this post might be enough for you to work on your public speaking fears on your own – and that’s great!
But I really want the best for you so if they are not enough, or if you want further help, go on…contact me, I’m waiting on the other side with my sleeves rolled up.
To your public speaking success…
Lorna Barrow
Lorna Barrow excels at leading small business owners to get the breakthrough they are looking for in their businesses! She unleashes her 25+ years of small business experience and knowledge on your business, which was developed from working with small business across the Caribbean and beyond. This ensures you get the solutions that are right for you and your business...
